Every relationship – family, friends, even the relationship you have with yourself have understandable challenges from time to time to overcome. Recently I have been observing myself and my family to understand where exactly conflict is coming from in order that it can be dealt with more effectively – and avoided where possible.
My conclusion is that life will be so much better if we all just learnt how to overlook.
Overlook when people don’t live up to our expectations (well not having expectations of anyone in the first place is better anyway!).
Overlook when people say or do things that hurt us. Learn to ignore, make excuses. Just leave people to answer for their own deeds. Why do we feel the need to restore justice in the world? Its not our place. Overlook and move on.
Why do we take everything so seriously? Why do we feel it is our “right” for someone to do x and y for us? “Why didn’t they thank me for the nice gift/gesture I did for them?” Well if I expect this and then get disappointed maybe I should recheck my intention. What am I doing it for really? Shouldn’t it all just be for the pleasure of Allah, and not anything else in return.
It is hard, we are human after all. We enjoy feeling appreciated. But really if we put all our trust in Allah, and remember that all we do is to please Him, alone then wait for our reward from Him and not anyone else.
If its one thing I learnt from my dad, it is to just not take things so seriously and build up this mountain of hurt against people – just let it go. Overlook and move on.
#ramadanrealisations
Trying to overlook and move on, one instant at a time, Insha Allah
MbyD
Truly Taskeen 