How I improved my duas to Allah with one easy tool

As part of my preparations for Ramadan this year, I decided to spend some time focusing on my dua, and defining what it is I would be asking of Allah during this special month. I realized that whilst dua is a daily practice, preceded by my every salaah, I have not given it enough meaningful attention to benefit from the value I could otherwise gain from it.

Allah says in the Quran (Chapter 40, Verse 60): “Call upon me; I will respond to you.”

I became aware that I have not been clear and specific in my appeal to Allah, often just quickly rattling off some previously thought of requests without giving it conscious thought. To expect results, I need to define exactly what I wanted from Allah, in all aspects of my life. This way I can feel sincerer and connected to Allah with my requests. So I sat down and brainstormed all the many things I wanted for myself- and my family by using an awesome tool called “Mind Maps.”
Artist: AJacub786
This takes me back to my school and university days where I would use this technique for studying, to categorise information when there is a lot to work with. Mind Maps are a creative way to visually represent ideas or lists that we have in our minds. It can help us to structure our thinking to give it purpose and meaning. We start with one idea and branch off to many others, thereby capturing all the things we want under each topic.

How to complete the Dua Mind Map
So for example, when structuring my dua request, I started with myself: “Me” in the image above, and then separated into two main areas: Deen (Hereafter) and Dunya (This World). Under “deen” I listed a few headings such as pleasing Allah, forgiveness and our ultimate goal – attaining jannah. You could list all the steps we need to take to get to jannah.


This World
Under “dunya”, I expanded to all the aspects in my life that I could think of – such as for personal
(health, mental, emotional etc.) and then to people in my life (family, friends, ummah), my environment (work, safety, etc.). All the time, listing in each category everything I desired, for
example under health asking for a stronger body, or to meet my fitness goals. Under family I listed protection, their success and happiness. The beauty is that nothing is out of scope as I continued to list everything I wanted under each subheading, remembering that Allah is Most Powerful and Most Merciful and can grant as He wishes.

Benefits
The purpose of using this tool, over simply listing is that the subheadings or branches, just provide a logical structure to ensure everything is covered. The creative process provides a lovely flow as thoughts keep popping up, and I could easily capture it under each branch. It also brought to my consciousness some things in my life that I wanted changed, yet I was not explicitly making dua for it! So I could now add it my comprehensive dua list.
How to use it
So once complete, how do I use this dua mind map in practice?  I could now either use it as a reference point to look at when making dua, or I noticed that many things I uncovered during the creative process itself, now automatically came to mind each time I make dua which is a great outcome too. This map can also be used to prompt when making shukr (thanks to Allah) as part of dua and daily practice.
Finally, for the best results, I will consider the most effective times for supplication, and structure the dua according to the way we were taught by the Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon on him) by first thanking and praising Allah, and then emptying my heart to connect to Allah more deeply, using my new and improved comprehensive dua “list”.
In this way, I feel more present when I appeal to Allah through dua. I come from a place of being heartfelt, no longer absent mindedly making dua on autopilot. Rather I am fully conscious when I am asking for what I want from Almighty Allah- detailing to my hearts desire all the requests I can think of, for myself and my family, friends and indeed the world, Insha Allah.

Overlook and Move on

Every relationship – family, friends, even the relationship you have with yourself have understandable challenges from time to time to overcome. Recently I have been observing myself and my family to understand where exactly conflict is coming from in order that it can be dealt with more effectively – and avoided where possible.

My conclusion is that life will be so much better if we all just learnt how to overlook.
Overlook when people don’t live up to our expectations (well not having expectations of anyone in the first place is better anyway!).
Overlook when people say or do things that hurt us. Learn to ignore, make excuses. Just leave people to answer for their own deeds. Why do we feel the need to restore justice in the world? Its not our place. Overlook and move on.
Why do we take everything so seriously? Why do we feel it is our “right” for someone to do x and y for us? “Why didn’t they thank me for the nice gift/gesture I did for them?” Well if I expect this and then get disappointed maybe I should recheck my intention. What am I doing it for really? Shouldn’t it all just be for the pleasure of Allah, and not anything else in return.
It is hard, we are human after all. We enjoy feeling appreciated. But really if we put all our trust in Allah, and remember that all we do is to please Him, alone then wait for our reward from Him and not anyone else.
 If its one thing I learnt from my dad, it is to just not take things so seriously and build up this mountain of hurt against people – just let it go. Overlook and move on.
#ramadanrealisations
Trying to overlook and move on, one instant at a time, Insha Allah
MbyD

Sit back and enjoy a response from ALLAH. ALLAH promises!

Greetings on this lovely day of Jumuah (Friday)


I have this thing with effort and reward. I practice it alot. Must be something I picked up growing up. Anyway, it serves me well as it works as motivation to keep me getting things done and working hard.


So it’s no wonder that this image shared on a family Whatsapp group hit home for me. It acted as a reminder for me to do my bit : all I need to do is these four things :
1. show gratitude
2. ask of Allah 
3. ask for forgiveness and 
4. constantly praise Allah
 
-and then sit back and enjoy a response from ALLAH Alone! 
 
 
 
 
There are some simple tasbeehs to read for each of these, so this is how I plan to implement.
 
Gratitude سبحان الله  (Subhanallah) Glory be to God
Ask of Allah:   لاَّ إِلَـهَ إِلاَّ أَنتَ سُبْحَـنَكَ إِنِّى كُنتُ مِنَ الظَّـلِمِينَ La Ilaha Illa Anta Subhanaka Inni Kuntu Minaz Zalimeen)  “…There are none worthy of worship besides You. Glorified are You. Surely I am from the wrongdoers.” (21:87)*
Forgiveness :  أستغفر الله‎ (Astaghfirullah)  I ask Allah forgiveness
Praise:  الحمد لله (Alhamdulillah) Praise be to Allah 
 
Maybe I can read them all every day, so maybe depending on the situation and my need I will increase recitation of a particular need. Either way, I am promised by my Lord a certain response from HIM if I do one of the following. WOW, that’s not just something, that’s everything!
 
Prayers and reminders I hope to heed, 
M4Life
 
*Dua of Prophet Yunus (May Peace be upon him), when he was swallowed by the whale and read this very powerful dua which I just love. Feel like it gets me out of any sticky situation, Alhamdulillah!

Two Forms of Mercy…Two states in One

Salaams

So I listened to a talk recently by Ustaadh NAK (you know who I mean!) explaining the two Names of Allah Ar Rahman and Ar Rahim : two forms of mercy and I was so inspired. 

I also learnt that by listening to something more than once it really solidifies your understanding. Anyway here is my take on it based on what I heard:

Ar Rahman – ارحمان : Allah’s mercy and love is extreme, not permanent( this life),  happening right now ( eg hunger similar word pattern جوعان)  mercy that’s more immediate.

Ar Rahim – ارحيم – Allah’s mercy  that’s always there and you can count on it. Quality that doesn’t change. Not necessarily taking place right now- potential.

So what does it mean?

When you want Allah’s mercy in a time of need, you need it immediately – and intensely! Then you appeal to His quality of Ar Rahman. Not thinking of the future or the potential of mercy right now. But as a human we need instant meeting of needs.

Once it’s met, you now can turn to his quality of Ar Raheem knowing he will always have Mercy should you need to call upon it in the future.
Subhanallah!

Only in Allah the Most Powerful can two forms exist in one – amazing.

May Allah grant us understanding and MERCY

Aameen

🙂
Praying for His Mercy,
M4Life